You are probably visiting this site because you are experiencing a problem or difficulty in your relationship at the moment and are considering ways to sort it out. It may be poor communication between you or a troubling sexual or internet 'addiction' difficulty which doesn't seem to want to go away; any of these can be new or perhaps you have been experiencing this for a more prolonged period of time.

 

Problems concerning sexuality, lack of intimacy, confidence and self esteem, or the desire to source the ability to communicate better with your partner, family and friends are common themes. However, you may be troubled by something very specific like the lure of internet erotica, pornography, chat rooms etc, the absence or infrequence or loss of sexual desire. Perhaps infrequent sexual activity between you is troubling one or the other of you leading to resentment and/or dissatisfaction in the relationship, orgasm difficulties, painful or difficult sex or erectile problems and difficulties.

 

It may be that you simply feel you do not 'get on' with your partner, sexually or otherwise, that there is poor communication between you or a feeling of simply not being able to 'get it right'.  Maybe one of you has had an affair and you want to get beyond the feelings of betrayal and find a solution and way forward; together or separately.

 

Perhaps you are one of the many people who find it difficult to form and maintain an intimate relationship or have never had a relationship and wonder how this could be and what can you do to change it.

 

Maybe you have come to realise that you are spending far too much of your time (and money) involved in sexual activity 'online' or in telephone chat rooms.

 

Confusion and difficulty in coming to terms with sex, your sexuality or sexual orientation can also be very troubling.

 

This list is not exhaustive!

 

You may have been considering finding a counsellor for some time because you are seeking answers to more existential inner questions like 'who am I', 'Where's my life heading', ' what am I even doing in this relationship' and so on and you want the opportunity to reflect on this and explore some possibilities and ways forward.

 

A recent bereavement or loss of a partner through a relationship ending may leave you feeling lost and isolated, even guilty, and seeking a way forward.    

 

Sexual and Relationship Counselling provides a confidential, safe, supportive and non judgemental environment in which to explore your issues and problems and look at ways, both practical and emotional, toward helping to sort things out. It can also provide a guided educational forum. In this way, you may begin to make more informed choices by integrating your learning and awareness in the therapy room into your everyday lived experience; by taking the steps you need to take to enhancing the quality of your life and that of your relationship and self.  Counselling really can help and heterosexuality is never assumed.